As we know, The Day of Hearts, known as Valentine’s Day, has flown by us with grace. For me, I had a great day because I was with the person I love giving gifts, cooking food and doing things we both love to do. I mean, that is the premise of the day. If you do not have a significant other, there are plenty of self-care and self-love activities for anyone to enjoy the overall best companion: yourself.

With that being said, why within the recent years has there been so much malice towards Valentine’s? I know the trend of bashing happy, healthy couples online has given those behind the screen an extra dose of dopamine, but when I see these rash comments tempting to break down a good thing, it itches my brain in a very bad way.

Currently, I am watching Netflix’s “The Perfect Match,” and the point I am getting to is further proven in the show. The premise is that you match with someone, complete a compatibility challenge, and if you win, you get the opportunity of a private date as well as the power to bring in new singles. In addition, you can pick someone from the less compatible couples to send on a blind date with the new single.

As I am watching the show, there are a couple of people who are there for the right reasons, and then there are the others. The others are there just for a fun time and not a long time, and I will be the first to tell you that it clearly shows. The new generation today is very much invested in hook-up culture as well as toxicity because they hate being boring. 

I am sorry to break it to you, but true love can get boring. It can get tiresome; it can get messy, and it can give you the biggest migraine of all time. However, the plot twist of it all is that with the right person, it can be the best rollercoaster in the whole amusement park. With the right person, you can sit comfortably in the Tunnel of Love grateful to have that person as your life partner.

As previously stated in my previous article “Why Today’s Dating World Promotes Unhealthy Relationships,” love is too beautiful of a thing to stomp on for clout or just for the fun of it. According to PsychAlive, “What makes a relationship beneficial is the attunement between people who care about each other. In a healthy secure connection, two people are able to hear from each other and recognize their needs, and listen so that person feels understood, and can make sense of their inner world.”

I do not believe romance is dead, but I do believe people have put their hearts out there and had it stomped and spat on. To compensate, they try to not become emotionally intimate with someone and if they sense that they might be falling in love, they self-sabotage and/or push away.

Love is scary, but at the end of the day, it is also a choice. It is your choice if you really want the real in a relationship and not just an Instagram like. It is your choice to love someone unconditionally every day for the rest of your life. 

I can say from experience that making that choice in the face of temptation right then and there is hard, but looking back, I would not have it any other way. With the right person, love is calm and love is easy.