There is no better way to start off with National Women’s Month than with a feud between Hailey Bieber and Selena Gomez. If you have been living under a rock, Selena Gomez used to date Justin Bieber, and he broke up with her. Three months later he got engaged to Hailey Baldwin. They got married in 2018. We are now in 2023, so to see this feud reignited to me is crazy.
It is no surprise that the fans are fueling this feud. However, when do we decide to let this relationship go? Honestly, I feel bad for both Selena Gomez and Hailey Baldwin. No matter who Gomez has dated or what movie she plays in, she is still tied to Justin Bieber. Since her relationship, she has launched a makeup brand, joined a TV series, and she has her own charity.
It must be frustrating to always have to reflect on your past because other people that you do not know keep reminiscing about it publicly.
Then, there is Hailey Baldwin. The girl that some people may refer to as Justin’s “one last lonely girl.” Some people see her as the girl who won Justin Bieber, but I see her as the girl who constantly gets compared to Selena Gomez.
I know that it must hurt to constantly get crucified for falling in love with the girl who is considered America’s sweetheart’s ex-boyfriend. The truth is with fame comes different opinions. Many times, it is the opinions of people who do not know us personally or feel an ounce of empathy.
If you are like me, then you remember when this feud first started and ended on twitter. It eventually led Selena Gomez to release two songs: “Lose You to Love Me” and “Look at Her Now.” In both of these songs, Gomez talked about the heartache she went through and how it led her to lose herself. She eventually found herself by leaving the situation and learning to love herself.
Now it was mostly the millennials and Gen Z who experienced this tumultuous relationship via twitter. If you were here for this relationship then you remember how toxic this relationship was. My question is why does the world still want them to be back together? Is it the nostalgia of the relationship?
I’m not sure if my generation also needs therapy from this relationship because why do we still miss it? I do not see the generation before us missing Brittany Spears and Justin Timberlake.
Or do we like them simply because they look good together, but if you are a fan of Selena Gomez, why do you want her back in this relationship that she had to dedicate an entire album to?
Do we not remember the “The Heart Wants What It Wants,” because in the intro I remember her saying, “He doesn’t know who I am anymore/And it don’t matter because I guess I picked someone that was gonna break my heart/ But then you make me feel crazy You make me feel like it’s my fault/I was in pain.”
Everyone deserves grace to be able to move on from their past. I would hate for someone to tie me to someone who I dated as a teenager because I am no longer that girl. As for Hailey, I would hate to constantly be compared to a woman that the world constantly protects and adores. As someone who is not famous at all, the feud can be very entertaining.
However, when does entertainment get old? When is the expiration of the joke when your life is the punchline?